Tragedy
10 days back a tragedy hit the Indian Community in
It is a sad situation all around. In few minutes, the world turned upside down for all involved.
The lady lost her life and along with it her dreams of seeing her daughter grow up. It must have been a utter shock to her family. They probably did not know the stress.
Imagine the trauma the little girl must be going through. She suddenly can't see her mother, the person closest to her. Neither can see her father. She is left with unknown strangers. It is very likely the girl is not fluent in English and can't understand much of what the DSS caregiver says. (Many Indian families teach their children only mother tongue since the children will pick up English quickly anyway once they go to school.) She probably is not used to sleeping in a separate bedroom. Most likely she is not used to the american food she must be getting. At 3, many Indian kids are still fed by hand by mother. The Indian community tried to see if they can care for her. Unfortunately the DSS rules will only allow handing over the child to a blood relative.
The guy doesn't fare well too. He had everything going for him. Came to US, got a job in a major bank, married to a beautiful woman, a wonderful 3 year old daughter, got a house, recently got his green card. In matter of minutes, he lost everything., his family, freedom, job, everything. He is sitting in a jail cell facing a murder charge. If convicted, he has to spend years in prison and face all the abuses prisoners face including sexual. He will miss out seeing his daughter grow. He may not have a good relation with his daughter again. He probably won't see any family visitors for years; if anybody close to him dies, he may not be able to see them. He may not find anybody to share his emotion or speak in his tongue for years. He may get deported after the sentence in over (forget about US citizenship). He must be agonizing every minute what happened in few minutes.
Veena can't seem get over this tragedy. She keeps talking something about this almost everyday.
Marriages are not easy. It takes lot of give and take. Any marriage will come across some strain at some point in time. In
Apparently Bipin was trying Yoga (to control anger?). With no extended family around it is tough if you are not using professional counseling.
The Marathi Mandal is arranging to bring the victims relatives from
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posted by Shan R Shanmuganathan at 11:56 AM
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This is truly such a sad thing to happen and the person that will be affected mostly is their 3 year old daughter, I just hope and pray that an angel in the form of her mother watches over her.But the big question that I have is "WHY"?....and WHY did he do this to his wife and family?...I hope he is punished, because he had no right to take away someone's life.
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Do you know this family well. I hail from same town in maharashtra. Do you know exact reason why this tragedy happened. drop me a mail at dyogesh73@hotpop.com
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We do not know the reason. From what I heard, he is not telling yet (at least not to his friends). Of course, we need to assume his innocence until proven guilty.
Also, DSS had to keep the child with them and not release to grandparents since he contested their request! IMO, that is such a cruel thing to do to that child.
Well...I do not know the family at all, I am just so sad after hearing this, cannot get over it, oh and btw I think the baby has already left for India in my understanding.
I worked closely with Bipin at the bank for a few years. I considered him a good friend and I thought one of the gentlest souls I had ever met. He was taking yoga, he is very well read on several religions, and all this just makes the whole incident more perplexing.
I weep for the loss of his daughter's innocence and pray she grows strong despite this horrid episode. My grief to his wife's parents and peace to their house. To his family, while if he's guilty of this crime there is no forgiveness on this realm, we can pray for his soul on the next plane and your peace in this one.
I know this family very well. We stayed in the same building in Thane. I know his parents, brother etc. The family is very gently. I still remember the day when Vaishali left for US. I cannot still believe this news. Does anyone know why he did this ? And, what happened to him ?