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posted by Shan R Shanmuganathan at 10:26 AM
After a hard custody battle,
Isha is in India, she flew back with her uncle Vinay & Rajendra last thursday and is expected to stay in Mumbai, I have known Bipin for last 13 years and knowing him I just cannot understand how this happened....
Oh....thank god, I am so glad to hear that the baby is safe and sound and in good hands....all my good wishes are for that little girl....may god bless her!
Very glad to know the little girl is with family. Thanks for the update.
posted by Shan R Shanmuganathan at 9:22 PM
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We are(it can never be were for us) very close to Bipin and Vaishali and what has happened has immensely shocked us. We used to stay in Atlanta (March 2001 to Sep 2004) and very frequently our families used to visit each other. We met Vaishali the first time on Memorial day 1999 when they flew from Charlotte to Columbus OH where we used to stay back then. In fact, it was the first time my Wife met both of them. I knew Bipin as we were from the same Engg College in India - he was my Senior.
We shifted back to India in Sep 2004 after 6 and ½ years in the US.
The last time we spoke to them was on the 12th of May, 2005 which was their 11th wedding anniversary. Thanks to my Wife for remembering their Wedding Anniv. date, due to which we decided to call them up from here in India. Vaishali was as usual, very talkative on the phone and said that they would visit us in Diwali. I told here how we would drive them down to some hillstation(s) in our new car. Bipin just accepted our wishes and did not talk much which was very unusual of him. He said that he had a Cisco Certification Exam on Sunday, May 16th. So I thought maybe he is under exam tension so did not give it any more thought. In fact, as per earlier plans, Bipin was to visit India for 10 days in April to visit sessions for Sahaj Marg. That never happened.
What I cannot still digest is how can a very caring man who did not let violence around him and his Family even think of violence?
1. Even slightly violent movies were not allowed to be watched at his house.
2. When watching the 2003 World Cup at our place in Atlanta, Bipin wanted my TV muted as Vaishali and Isha were asleep and he did not want them to be disturbed - they were sleeping in our drawing room.
3. He used to regularly meditate and actively participate in Sahaj Marg. I had heard about that institution from him.
4. Golf. He was into it about a little over a year ago. Had developed a taste for it - bought medicus2000 to improve his golf driving skills. He had his own 'space'.
5. Bipin loved Kids. He was very understanding and patient with kids in general. In fact, once he had even mentioned about doing something for kids who had lesser opportunities. Per him, as kids were our future, they needed to be nurtured carefully.
6. Most importantly, both Husband and Wife were so much in LOVE.
...The list could go on....
It is so sad that this ever had to happen. It is going to haunt us ......
We will make sure we will be in touch with Isha once she is back in India...she calls my daughter Didi...in fact the kids talked to each other for over 5 mins out of the 20 min call on May 12th. Little did anyone know that within the next 48 hours( per information from news websites) the lives of Bipin,Vaishali and Isha would change forever.....
Shan R Shanmuganathan said...
It must be very hard for you and your family, knowing them personally. Thanks for sharing your feelings. Please keep us updated of Isha. Marathi Mandal is doing a great job, but if you need any help here regarding Isha, I will be happy to.
10 days back a tragedy hit the Indian Community in
It is a sad situation all around. In few minutes, the world turned upside down for all involved.
The lady lost her life and along with it her dreams of seeing her daughter grow up. It must have been a utter shock to her family. They probably did not know the stress.
Imagine the trauma the little girl must be going through. She suddenly can't see her mother, the person closest to her. Neither can see her father. She is left with unknown strangers. It is very likely the girl is not fluent in English and can't understand much of what the DSS caregiver says. (Many Indian families teach their children only mother tongue since the children will pick up English quickly anyway once they go to school.) She probably is not used to sleeping in a separate bedroom. Most likely she is not used to the american food she must be getting. At 3, many Indian kids are still fed by hand by mother. The Indian community tried to see if they can care for her. Unfortunately the DSS rules will only allow handing over the child to a blood relative.
The guy doesn't fare well too. He had everything going for him. Came to US, got a job in a major bank, married to a beautiful woman, a wonderful 3 year old daughter, got a house, recently got his green card. In matter of minutes, he lost everything., his family, freedom, job, everything. He is sitting in a jail cell facing a murder charge. If convicted, he has to spend years in prison and face all the abuses prisoners face including sexual. He will miss out seeing his daughter grow. He may not have a good relation with his daughter again. He probably won't see any family visitors for years; if anybody close to him dies, he may not be able to see them. He may not find anybody to share his emotion or speak in his tongue for years. He may get deported after the sentence in over (forget about US citizenship). He must be agonizing every minute what happened in few minutes.
Veena can't seem get over this tragedy. She keeps talking something about this almost everyday.
Marriages are not easy. It takes lot of give and take. Any marriage will come across some strain at some point in time. In
Apparently Bipin was trying Yoga (to control anger?). With no extended family around it is tough if you are not using professional counseling.
The Marathi Mandal is arranging to bring the victims relatives from
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posted by Shan R Shanmuganathan at 11:56 AM
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This is truly such a sad thing to happen and the person that will be affected mostly is their 3 year old daughter, I just hope and pray that an angel in the form of her mother watches over her.But the big question that I have is "WHY"?....and WHY did he do this to his wife and family?...I hope he is punished, because he had no right to take away someone's life.
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Hi
Do you know this family well. I hail from same town in maharashtra. Do you know exact reason why this tragedy happened. drop me a mail at dyogesh73@hotpop.com
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Shan R Shanmuganathan said...
We do not know the reason. From what I heard, he is not telling yet (at least not to his friends). Of course, we need to assume his innocence until proven guilty.
Also, DSS had to keep the child with them and not release to grandparents since he contested their request! IMO, that is such a cruel thing to do to that child.
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Well...I do not know the family at all, I am just so sad after hearing this, cannot get over it, oh and btw I think the baby has already left for India in my understanding.
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I worked closely with Bipin at the bank for a few years. I considered him a good friend and I thought one of the gentlest souls I had ever met. He was taking yoga, he is very well read on several religions, and all this just makes the whole incident more perplexing.
I weep for the loss of his daughter's innocence and pray she grows strong despite this horrid episode. My grief to his wife's parents and peace to their house. To his family, while if he's guilty of this crime there is no forgiveness on this realm, we can pray for his soul on the next plane and your peace in this one.
Can teenagers be so stupid? Then, considering our teenage years, may be so :-)
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Shiva said...
Hi,
I am shiva and I have made it a point to check out ur blog every day. I am really amazed by your love for ur son. Would be able to really understand it only when i have a son of my own. (Right now enjoying the bliss of bachelorhood). By the way i too did my BE in CS from REC Trichy( passed out in 2003. We were the last RECTians :) )
Shiva.
Shan R Shanmuganathan said...
Thanks Shiva. Yes, it is life changing when you have your own child(ren). Now I understand how proud our parents must have felt when we were growing up even though they didn't have the medium or the time to say it always. Nice to hear from a RECTian, that too from the last batch :-) Keep in touch. Good luck.
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what are the updates in vaishali sarode's murder case becoz it's been 5 years for the murder. what punishment he got??????